Momma's groove

Flash Sale! June 3rd, 2016

time bundleInstalife BundleColonial White Shadow Box bundleOk guys, you’ve got until Monday at 3:00 pm (MDT) to order if you’re interested in any of these fun bundles!  Turns out there are more than I thought there would be!  Not a bad thing of course, but I probably won’t be able to list them all…  I cannot believe some of the things they are letting go for such great prices!  Some of the bundles are 25% off, 30% off and even more!  The timagehing I’m definitely not going to miss out on, and maybe the most dramatic deal, is the Colonial White Shadow Box Bundle.  These are 12×12 shadow boxes in the popular Colonial White color.  One of the best gift ideas ever, and especially great for a new baby!  They are imageputting two of them in a bundle for $40.53!!  That’s only around $12 more than you would usually spend on one!!  I’ve bought these for gifts in the past and enjoy making a 12×12 layout to display on the wall.  I’m definitely going to make one for my new baby! (Probably with the Georgie paper.)  Don’t hesitate to check it out because I have imagea feeling many of these bundles will go fast!  We’ve got treat bagscupcake boxes, picture my life cards, embellishments, embossing folders, and lots more! This is so much fun!  Click shop with me, any of the links in this post, or go to www.Tiffanysmiles.ctmh.com to grab what you want before it’s gone!  Now, I’ve got an order to make! Talk to you all soon!

Smile through the Trials!

Tiffany

Momma's groove

Fun flash sales with Close to my Heart!

1606-cc-flash-saleHey guys!  June is gonna be an exciting month!  Close to my Heart is having a flash sale every weekend all month long! Once the sale is announced you will have until the following Monday to order whatever it is and that’s it.  Time will be up and the offer will no longer exist!  They will announce each sale at 3:00 pm (MDT) on Friday and it will close the following Monday at the same time.   And… you might not even have that long because it will also be a “while supplies last” deal.  I’m getting really anxious for them to announce today’s sale and I’ll let you all know what it is asap!  Check my instagram @Tiffanysmiles_  It will be on there as soon as I can get it up there.  I’m hoping I’ll be able to announce it on periscope as well (@smilesntrials) but I never know how well live broadcasting will work out around here!  But if you make sure to follow me on, you’ll know if I pop on!  I’ll list it on here too, with the proper links to make it easier for you to grab the offers as quick as possible.  You can click the ‘shop with me’ tab up top on here to go right to my website where you can find more info as well.  I think this is gonna be a lot of fun and I can’t wait to see what they’re going to offer!  Stay tuned guys, and happy shopping!

Smile through the trials!

Tiffany

Momma's groove

As our seasons change…

Hey friends!  How have you all been?  I’ve missed chatting with ya’ll!  So… I suppose it’s time to announce my big news!  I am 9 weeks pregnant!!  Yes, yes, it is the 5th time….  Yes I know what causes it, yes we have a tv…  And whatever other funny little questions people ask when you tell them that you’re pregnant for the 5th time… 🙂  I’m not gonna lie it came as quite a surprise.  But, you know, you get use to the idea. And then it just becomes part of your life, and launches you into a whole new chapter that is totally different than the one that you thought you were embarking on.  I have been so so sick, it’s been ridiculous.  I have honestly barely been able to function some days.  Mornings are by far the worst so taking my kids to school (a 30 minute drive each way) has been miserable.  But, it’s slowly starting to get better, for which I’m very grateful.  So, if you’ve wondered why I’ve been MIA, now you know!

It’s funny how life changes paths so quickly some times.  For me, I was at a point where my little ones were getting easier.  Everyone can buckle themselves into the car, brush their teeth, etc.  All but the baby, who’s almost 3, can dress themselves, and basic things like that.  I’ve literally been in tears in the grocery store at times because my younger two are extremely hyper and very hard to control.  This isn’t due to lack of discipline (although lots of people give me awful looks, and make comments that make me feel like it is- another post for another day) but really is due mostly to very busy personalities.  My little girl is almost 5 and has gotten much better so I was looking forward to being past that stage.  I was also very excited about building my blog and online presence.  I was getting on periscope (@smilesntrials) consistently and had started a public instagram (@tiffanysmiles_) to be able to connect with many of you.  I was also on a search for a mic to fix my sound problems and start making those video tutorials I’ve been promising you all.  And then it all came to a stand still.  I pretty much stopped even getting on here, or any social media.  I was simply too sick.  For that matter, all of my planners have been blank for weeks!  Blank!  I haven’t even had the energy to plan, or at least make them pretty.  It’s been rough.  I’m not saying all of this for sympathy, just to explain how drastically what I was doing and planning to do changed.

But if you’ve been reading here for very long at all (Can’t be real long, my blog is still a baby itself!) or you know me personally, you know that I am very big on balance, and on accepting the seasons of life as just what they are, a season. Some seasons are wonderful, and some are very hard.  Often times the hard ones feel like they’ll last forever.  I was beginning to feel like all my hard work was going to be wasted and I’d have to start all over, or give up on it all together.  But I don’t want to do that.  I had to remind myself that this is just a season, and in the grand scheme of life, it’s not even a really long one.  So, my season that I thought was going to be one of pushing, working, connecting, networking, and making things happen… Is going to have to be a slow one of doing what I can when I can.  And that’s ok.  This may have taken me by surprise, but it didn’t take God by surprise, so I’m trusting him to guide me through it.

So, my friends, I hope to still talk with you all, at least weekly.  Hopefully more as things get more into some kind of normal.  But I won’t commit to it.  I can’t promise how often I will be around.  But I hope you’ll stick with me because I have lots that I still can’t wait to share with you!  Thank you for you patience and for your friendship!

Smile through the trials!

Tiffany

Momma's groove

Calm like a duck!

Have you ever seen a duck floating on the water?  They look so peaceful don’t they.  They just seem to be sitting there floating. But do you know what’s going on under the water?  Even when it looks like the duck is perfectly still, it’s paddling ninety to nothin!  They have to move their little legs super fast to stay afloat, and to keep from being washed away in the currents.  (I’ve read that they don’t paddle nearly as fast when they are in relatively still waters, but that’s irrelevant to my point. 😉 So anyway….)

Do you ever feel that way as a Momma?  I do!  I actually think of ducks a lot.  Especially when I’m out by myself with all four of the kids at a restaurant, or worse, a clothing store…!  (I don’t know what exaclty happens when we walk into Kohls, but my two year old completely loses his ever-lovin mind!)  I’m trying desperately at times not to lose it.  At times it goes really well and it’s gotten easier as they’ve gotten older.  But there are times when I have a little one that doesn’t want to cooperate, I’m trying to figure out what everyone wants to eat, someone needs to potty, and I can feel the eyes of a not so understanding couple sitting a few tables away…  I’m trying not only to not get stressed, but not to act stressed.  I don’t want to look like a crazy, out of control woman that can’t handle her own children and needs a three week vacation!  Although, I might feel like one at times.  (For that matter, I might actually be one at times.)  So I think of those ducks.  No matter how frantically I’m trying to stay afloat, I want to maintain a peaceful demeanor.  For the sake of the kids too.  It’s not helping anyone out for all their memories of doing things to be filled with Mom being a stress ball and having an anxiety attack, snapping at everyone, and giving up and rushing out in tears.  Thankfully that hasn’t happened, but I’ve feared it a few times.

I can remember a particularly trying visit to IHOP.  At the time my third child was my baby.  She wasn’t happy at all to be there.  She was being crabby and my older two were complaining that it was taking too long to get our food.  Which it was.  I know it wouldn’t be fair, but seriously, they should expedite orders for tables with kids!  I don’t remember everything about the meal but I do remember that it was stressful.  A very kind elderly man came up to me and complemented me for how calm I was.  He clearly doesn’t know me personally, but that’s beside the point!  He saw me as a very calm Momma and that made me feel better because I was feeling anything but calm.  You know what I said in response to his compliment?  I smiled and said “Calm like a duck!”  He laughed and went on his way.  It did make me feel a bit better, but I definitely felt like a duck that day.  Paddling for dear life, to peacefully float on the surface.

So remember my mommy friends, think of our friends on the water when it’s taking everything you’ve got not to sink!  You can do it.  You can stay afloat, and have a good time.  Generally after the overwhelming craziness calms down, you can actually have a nice conversation or laugh about something with the kids.  And then you start to wonder what had you so worked up in the first place.  Until it happens again…!

Smile through the trials!

Tiffany

Momma's groove

To plan, or not to plan…? That is the dinner question…

I’ve been talking to some friends lately about meal planning.  I might make a video for y’all or do a periscope on exactly how I make my menu.  It’s a bit of a process so I’d have to show you to be able to explain it!  Do you like to have a plan?  Are you someone that can plan it enough in your head, that you buy the right groceries and can work it out with out much stress?  Or do you frantically search your refrigerator and pantry at 4:00, trying figure out something that you can cook by 5, or 6 to your starving crew?!

If I don’t have a plan I’m frantic when its time to cook.  I’ll remember early enough in the day that I need to get some meat out to thaw, but I’ll put it off and then end up not getting anything out!  That’s the beauty of a plan.  When I do remember, I can check my menu to see what I’m going to cook, get it out, and not think about it again until time to cook!  If it’s something that takes a little longer I can do some of the prep earlier too so that we aren’t eating super late.  It’s really a blessing to know what I’m making for dinner and not have to stress about it.  So why do I not always do it?

The funny thing is I love to have a menu, however, I don’t always love to make the menu.  It can be pretty time consuming.  It’s not really hard, and I’ve done some things to make it even easier.  Some things you can do to help are: Make a list of some favorites and what cook book and page # to find each;  Divide the days of the week into categories to make the decision making easier. i.e. ground beef, chicken, slow cooker…; Keep all your menu stuff in one place so that you’re not searching for something during the limited time you’ve set aside to plan.

I don’t love going to the grocery store either by the way!  That’s another way that having a menu really is a blessing to me.  I make a grocery list off of my menu and then get everything that I’m going to need, meaning less small trips back to the store!  It also helps me to spend less money because I’m less likely to grab things that I won’t use.  I know that I put plenty of meals on my menu, so if an item isn’t on my list I know that I don’t need it.

I’m trying to have a certain day of the month set aside for planning the next months menu.  I get it done very efficiently sometimes, and sometimes I don’t…  So I’m thinking if a certain day (The last Mon of the month, the 25th of every month, something like that) is always my meal plan day, it might help.  I’d love to hear from you!  How involved is your meal planning process?  I hope if you haven’t tried it you’ll give it a try and see what a burden it really can take off of you!

Smile through the trials!

Tiffany

Momma's groove

7 things to remember when your child doesn’t want to talk!

It breaks my heart when one of my children is upset about something and doesn’t want to tell me about it. That’s only happened a few times, but I fear it will happen more the older they get. Thankfully they are talkers (imagine that!) so I usually get the scoop from them with out much effort. But when it really matters, I hope we’ll be able to keep those lines of communication open.  Not much is worse than your child getting in the car looking like they’ve been crying, or trying not to.  Then you ask what’s wrong and they say “Nothing.”  Well, it’s obviously not nothing and the more you try to find out what it is, the more they refuse to tell you!  I’m no expert, and I’m sure once we are well into the teen years, I’ll have to revisit this post.  But here are a few things I’ve picked up on so far to keep in mind in those situations.

  1. Don’t push too hard.  If there’s anything that makes a person shut down, and not want to talk, it’s someone pushing and smothering them.  “Well, you need to tell me what’s wrong.”  “What did they say?  You can tell me.”  “Who? Who upset you?  Where are they?!”  These things usually do not help.  I’ve said these things during an actual conversation, and that’s fine.  But when you don’t know the story and you’re begging them to tell it to you, these questions are usually not helpful, and annoying.  As hard as it is, if they are asking for some space, it’s usually best to give it to them for a bit.
  2. Wait for a better time to talk about it.  Remember, there’s a good chance that whatever is bothering your child is embarrassing to them.  Yes you are Mom, but they can still be embarrassed to tell you about some things.  So it’s a good idea to hold off. That way some of the sting can die down, and you can talk to them in private, when no one else will hear.
  3. Offer to pray with/for them.  Ask them if they’d like for you to pray with them.  Prayer is conversation, so often listening to you converse with the Lord about their struggles, will encourage them to talk about it too.  If they don’t want to tell you what’s going on, you can pray in general for them.  And if they don’t want to pray together you can say “I’m going to say a prayer for you, what can I pray about?”  They might just say “That I will know what to do.”  Or something vague.  Or they might continue to shut you out and say “Nothing.”  But I think knowing that you are praying for them still means a lot to them even if they don’t say it.
  4. Be ok with them confiding in another trusted adult.  Now this does not go for everyone.  Don’t just say “As long as they are talking to someone, it’s ok with me.”  Unfortunately you can’t trust every adult you know with influencing your child’s thought process.  But, it’s good to have one or two other like minded, honest adults that they can talk to.  I know you hate to think that your child would ever not want to share with you.  But, sometimes they need someone other than Mom to talk to.  Sometimes Dad is better.  But often times a trusted aunt/uncle or grandparent is preferable.  My kids have a very close relationship with my sister.  Not only does she know my kids just about as well as I do, but she’s more patient than I am!  If they need to talk, and prefer it be with my sister, I’m totally ok with that.  Don’t let your pride get in the way of your child’s well being!  And if one of them were to talk to her and it be something they ask that I not know, it would be hard on me, but I could accept it.  Because I know she wouldn’t keep anything from me that I really needed to know.  (Like drugs, alcohol, a serious bully problem, etc.)  Not only do I trust her to tell me anything that I need to know, but I also trust her not give my child fuel for rebellion or to mistrust me. (It’s better they not talk to someone who will say things like “Your parents are being so unfair.” Or “Well that teacher shouldn’t be bossing you, she’s an idiot.”)
  5. Let them know that you are on their side.  If they aren’t wanting to talk and you can’t crack them, make sure you leave them with the right words swimming around in their mind.  Rather than “Fine, if you don’t want to talk, I give up!  Figure it out on your own, and we’ll see how that goes for ya!”  maybe something like “Ok, if you really don’t want to talk right now, I can respect that.  But the problem probably won’t just go away, so when you do need to talk, I’m here.  Whatever it is, I love you and nothing’s going to change that”
  6. Don’t let your imagination get the best of you!  Most the time when this happens it’s because the other girls wouldn’t sit with her at lunch.  Or the boys didn’t pass him the ball in gym class.  Things that made them feel really bad, and embarrassed.  Things that do have a real effect on them, but will pass.  When your child is huffy and is obviously dealing with something, don’t get too crazy in your head about it.  Most of the time they will tell you about it later on, and get passed it.  And most of the time it’s not that they are pregnant or decided to try smoking in the bathroom.  Don’t borrow trouble!  Wait until you know just how serious it is, to start having anxiety!
  7. Be willing to be there if it really is really real.  If it is something that’s for reals, like they really are pregnant, or did do something very wrong.  If someone hurt them on a deeper level, or any of the unthinkable things did happen…  Make it serious to you.  Don’t just ignore it and try to reason and make light of it.  I’m pretty sure it would be easy for a parent to go into some sort of denial.  So make sure to be willing to get them the help they need.  Be it counseling, rehab, medical treatment, or whatever.  This one could be it’s own post, so the short version is, remember that we already committed to #5 on this list, so stick to it.  Once something has happened, you can’t change it.  So help them to at least move forward.  No matter how the situation effects you, it’s about them and you have to see it that way and be there for them.

One thing we have to accept as parents is that hard times will come.  It won’t always be the happy, close relationship that we hope for.  There will be set backs, and real life issues.  The key I think, is to handle it the best way we can, and keep on keepin on!

Smile through the trials

Tiffany

Momma's groove

I love you, even when I’m annoyed….

I was laughing last night as my 10 year old daughter was going to bed.  She asked me to do something and I couldn’t because I was getting the little ones down.  I said “Nope, you’ll have to do it yourself.”  Then I heard an over exaggerated sigh as she did it.  I could just see her eyes rolling, even though I couldn’t see her.  She traipsed through her room, not so lightly, and made it very obvious that I had wronged her.  It was heartless of me to not do this for her, although she could full well do it herself…  This display of aggravation humored me a bit as I thought about how dramatic she can be.  I know some parents would say this attitude called for discipline.  Sometimes it would, but I just let it be.  I’m a pick your battles parent, and to me this didn’t merit a battle.

After a minute or so I said “Goodnight, I love you!”  She got back into her bed and responded “I love you!”  She didn’t say it with the eye roll or a rude tone, just “I love you”.  Because she does.  Even though I was busy and couldn’t cater to her at that moment.  Even though she didn’t want to do it.  Even though she was annoyed.  The tone went away and she told me she loves me.  I’m not an expert at this parenting thing.  It seems I find criticism at almost every turn.  But I think that as a family, as long as you know that you love each other, and you are able to express it, you are blessed.  That little girl can drive me nuts.  She’s really coming into a trying age.  But hearing her say “I love you”  when she was annoyed, and letting go of her frustration so quickly, made me laugh and was such a blessing to me!  She may be rotten at times, but she’s MY rotten little girl!!

Smile through the trials

Tiffany

 

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Mom fail that was a success!

I wanna tell y’all about making cupcakes for my sons student council meeting. But let’s start at the beginning. Y’all know I love papercrafting and making fun, pretty things for the kids’ activities. Even though I love doing it, I’ve been known to take on too much. When school started this year I told myself I had to be careful what I volunteer for. So at the first student council meeting I knew I had to think carefully about the sign up sheet. It came around super quickly and my little ones were being very distracting. So I had to think fast. I didn’t want to volunteer for a time that might be too overwhelming. So I chose snack duty for the Feb meeting. I was excited thinking I’d come up with something really cute for Valentine’s Day.  As time went by I kept it in the back of my mind that I wanted to come up with something fun for that meeting.  When it got closer, I told my son the really cute idea that I had seen on Pinterest and was planning to make. And then he said it. I was pretty disappointed when my son made the following statement. He said “No Mom, don’t do something all elaborate.” What?! He crushed my excitement! Why would he not want me to make him some really cool, fun snack?! I mean seriously, how…. he… gonna….? Right?

So there I was, not only back to square one, but unsure of what type of snack I would even make.  I saw a pink, Strawberry Cheesecake flavored, icing filled cupcake mix at the store.  They were pretty and looked yummy.  I snapped a picture with my phone and later showed it to my son.  He liked the idea, so I decided to make those.  But, uh, then the day of the meeting

The Mix
The Mix

rolled around.  And I remembered something that I don’t understand how I had forgotten.  I don’t do cupcakes.  Like for real.  I know they are relatively easy, and I do enjoy baking.  But I seldom make cupcakes and I’m really bad at making them pretty.  It was an ordeal y’all!  My little two have a tendency to get pretty wild and they were being seven kinds of crazy while I was trying to get those silly things done.  To say it was stressful would be an understatement.  For the first batch I had left the butter out for too long and it was almost melted when I mixed it into the icing.  For those of you that don’t know, there is a difference in room temperature butter and melted butter, and the way they react in a recipe!  I felt like the icing was gross.  (I’m still pretty sure it was.)  And not only did I have to put this icky icing on top but I also had to squish it inside the cupcakes!  I was pretty grossed out by how yucky these cupcakes were sure to be.  Side note, the icing being too runny also meant that I almost ran out before I was able to fill all of them.  I’m telling you, it was a mess!  So much so that I decided to scratch the whole thing and go get some store bought cupcakes.

I told you the littes were being seven kinds of crazy right…?  I needed to leave early to go to the store and they decided there was no way they were going to let that happen!  It got so late that I realized my only choice was to make the other

Not pretty!
Not pretty!

batch of cupcakes and take them anyway.  I was annoyed.  I know these things aren’t that important but Mommy fails aren’t fun.  And this was going to be quite the Mommy fail.  My son was gonna be so embarrassed when no one liked his snack!  And even more embarrassed if that icing gave the someone the runs! (I didn’t actually think it was unsafe or I wouldn’t have taken it.)  But I had to take something.  The icing was at least better the second time.  But not prettier.  I can make some things pretty, but cupcake icing isn’t one of those things!   I got them finished and in the car.

I was so concerned and annoyed by these ugly, yucky cupcakes that after I picked my daughter up and she took them in for the meeting, I ran to the store to grab some more snacks.  I figured I needed to give them something to eat when no one wanted the cupcakes!  But alas, we got back too late and they were already coming out.  I braced myself for my disappointed boy to get in the car.  He got in and I asked him if they were gross.  Do you wanna know what he said?!  He said “No, they were really good!  Everyone liked them and someone was even asking about the icing.  (That’s right, that frustrating icing!) I told them you made it but the mix came with stuff for it.”  He even told me that he needed to know the brand and such because someone had asked!  I was so surprised and it was so funny!  Here I was beating myself up about these silly cupcakes, and they were fine.  Totally fine.  And you wanna know a secret?  Kids generally don’t care a bit what they look like!  I felt better.  My supposed mommy fail turned out to be a success!  And I learned that it’s really silly to make such a big deal about little things like cupcakes.  I mean, how badly could I really have messed up a mix?  I was just stressed and got myself all worked up for no good reason.  We do that, don’t we, momma’s?  So let’s try to stop doing that to ourselves.  It really is silly.  I thought you all might get a good laugh at my silliness!  Now that it’s all said and done it really makes me laugh!  But I won’t be making cupcakes again.  Not for events anyway!  Have you had something like this happen to you?  I’d love to hear about it!  Share it with us in the comments!  I hope you have a blessed day!

Smile through the trials!

Tiffany

Momma's groove

Happy Valentines Day!!

It’s Valentine’s Day!!  What are you doing on this special day meant to celebrate love and those we share it with?  Do you go all out?  Or do you not like the commercialization of it all?  I love Holidays and any excuse to celebrate!  I’m not saying spend a ton of money, Valentines day is one we don’t really spend a whole lot on.  But I do love any occasion to ya know, have an occasion!  Are you doing something special with your honey?  Do you get gifts for your kids, or just candy?  I’d love to know how you celebrate!  I don’t mean to spoil any surprises, but I knew I would get chocolate covered strawberries.   My husband gets them for me every year from a friend who’s wife makes them.  It’s a wonderful surprise, but, it’s not really a surprise. 😉   Don’t tell him ok… Other than that we don’t do a whole lot.  Usually a card, and a little bit of candy for the kids.

I do dress my kids in certain colors for most Holidays.  I had already bought some red and pink before I realized I wanted to use the Charlotte paper from the Charlotte workshops your way kit for my Vday scrapbook page(s).  That paper is mostly Slate, Whisper (grey colors) and Sorbet (a peachy pink).  So I got some grey to tie it in.  Yeah, I know it seems silly to match their clothes to my paper, but that’s how I roll sometimes!  Bummer I forgot to get myself something ’cause I like to take advantage of any opportunity to buy new clothes!!

Church was canceled this morning because of snow.  Should be able to go this evening though.  We didn’t go anywhere special or do anything different.  But we love each other and are together.  There’s nothing better than waking up and hearing each child say “Happy Valentines Day! I love you!”  I hope that we can remember to cherish those we love.  To look into their eyes and think of all the reasons that they are wonderful.  To think of all the blessings and excitement that they add to our lives.  Because life is too short not to savor every moment and every ounce of affection that we are blessed with.  I hope you have a blessed day and that love is in the air, wherever you are!

Smile through the trials!

Tiffany

Momma's groove

A child, a miniature person, full of emotions!

Preteens.  Teeny boppers.  Tweens.  What do you call the 10-12 age range?  Whatever you call them, they are an age group all their own.  And they have these dramatic personality’s that really are almost comical!!

Now I know, when my extremely dramatic 10 year old gets all weepy over something small, to her it really is meaningful.  If she’s crying about it, even if it’s ridiculous, she really does think it’s worth crying about.  I don’t want to be insensitive, but really sometimes, it’s kinda funny.  I’m not saying that I make fun of her, and laugh at the issue that made her sad.  But her dramatic response is usually a bit humorous.  When a child is 2 and says something that sounds grown up we think it’s so cute.  As they start to get older that wears off a bit.  But 10 really isn’t that old.  Some  people treat their 10 year old’s like teenagers, but really, they are so young!  They really still are this little miniature person learning how to take in, and respond to, the things around them.  When I see her like this, it makes her adorable to me again (she’s always adorable, but I mean the little kind of adorable) and I have to laugh!  Not a big, embarrass her and make matters worse, belly laugh.  But a little chuckle to myself about how she is perceiving the world at that moment.

Don’t get me wrong, she deals with some real issues that I wish she wouldn’t have to deal with.  The other girls leaving her out, not making the grade she had hoped for on a test, a boy calling her a mean name.  Those are the situations that break my heart and make me wish I could fix everything.  And some of those things leave me fighting off the Mommy Claws that seem to just be waiting to come out!

But sometimes she acts like the world is an awful place because of small things.  Her brother knocked her American Girl doll over, her sister used some of her doll clothes, or Mommy was so heartless as to let the little ones go in her room while she was gone… You know, serious stuff that just crushes her world in 2.3 seconds!  It really is silly that she lets little things get to her on such a level.  And I do get frustrated.  But it’s better that I keep from getting worked up, laugh it off, and explain to her that it’s not as bad as she thinks it is.  How do we get them to realize that some things are just not worth the tears?  It’s hard to know how to react in those situations.  I know it’s important not to belittle her feelings.  I try to say something like “I understand that makes you sad.”  I don’t want to encourage her to be a drama queen so I also try not to get too sucked in.  To remain calm myself and explain to her that it’s probably not worth the reaction she had.  I try to step outside of myself and look at how silly and cute it is that she thinks the issue is so serious.  Maybe even take a moment to be grateful that she’s not going through something more real.  And talk it out.  Sometimes she’s determined to be upset so I just let her be.  We’ll have a conversation like this; “It’s not that bad, honey.  They didn’t mean to make you sad.”  “Yes they did, they’re soo mean!  Nobody cares how I feel!!” I’ll just tell her “Well, when you are ready to calm down and talk about this let me know.”  And I separate myself from her.  This is also good because it helps me not to get too grumpy with her.  My patience tends to run thin during those times!  The point is, I think the best thing we can do as a parent is to stay calm, try to talk to them, and not take it too seriously ourselves.  Sometimes it’s hard to feel like your little princess has been wronged in some way!  Remember to be a grown up and keep things in perspective yourself.

I never would have realized how emotional little girls really can be.  I expected emotions to fly but I thought it started in the teen years.  Wrong! And I’m not looking forward to the teen years when the issues become more real, and she is still full of emotions with hormones thrown in the mix!  So I will enjoy this age, try to help her to make some sense of things, and love her just the way her little dramatic self is!

Smile through the trials

Tiffany